Vicious versus virtuous circles
“All the great speakers were bad speakers at first,” Ralph W. Emerson.
Being self-confident in front of any audience is a crucial asset. Some people are somewhat introverted, while others extraverted by nature. The first mistake would be to think that only some people are good at public speaking while others are not. Appearing confident in front of an audience is a long path that requires specific steps. Think of Dr. Martin Luther King, who is now a historical reference of the American rhetoric. He didn’t start speaking with such eloquence. It is rather his relentless efforts that led him to Capitol Hill in 1963. “I Have A Dream” speech is an excellent example of a man who could transmit his vision and legacy as the result of revealing his true self in front of the crowd.
It has to be noted that being self-confident doesn’t only rely on our willingness to be this way but instead on our capacity to perceive ourselves through the eyes of others. For this reason, if you have the feeling that people don’t like your speeches, it will actually have a greater effect on your self-esteem. While self-perception and other people’s perceptions are deeply intertwined, it is impossible to enjoy public speaking if the dynamic you’ve created is negative.
But the opposite is also true. It is possible to create a positive dynamic in a very short time. Your ability to face down the reality of a presentation through other people’s perceptions is the key. It allows you in this way to create short-term objectives strategies (STOS) as well as long-term objectives strategies (LTOS) to create a positive dynamic ; the only and real sustainable solution for the years ahead.
Everyone is different, so are the needs and the adequate strategies to set up.